In a 10 year research study, Brene Brown asked various companies and organization one question "who will be around, taking over in 5-10 years?" She shares that overwhelmingly the answer was "we need braver leaders" braver leaders will be taking over.
As Brene continued to dig into this idea of braver leaders she came up with four key points.
1. Rumble with vulnerability. Brene states that this means that in the face of uncertainty, when things get hard and challenging, we do not tap out. We have the hard conversations. We do the challenging tasks. We push forward even when we are scared.
2. Live into our values. Brene shares that our behaviors need to support our values. We cannot simply say that we have integrity, we need to show it and live it daily.
3. Building trust. We cannot have a cohesive team that works well together when we do not have trust.
4. Reset after failure or disappointment. We all face disappointment. We call fail. How do we handle it, how do we fair? Can we reset or do we stay in the failure?
Brene Brown has long been a favorite of mine. She is a social researcher with a lot of helpful things to share that can help us as adults. The things she shares can also help us support our students.
Whitney Houston once sang "I believe the children are our future. Teach them well and let them lead the way"
We are responsible for teaching our students well so they know how to lead the way. We need to help them put into practice the four pillars of a brave leader.
Last night our oldest child had a Marine recruiter come over to talk about his options. During the time they spent together they went over that the Marines call "tags." These were simply tags on a keychain which held different traits, qualities, and values. The recruiter asked they be put in order of importance and then they reviewed them together. After it was over a comment was made along the lines of "he just keep going deeper and deeper." The recruiter kept asking "how do you handle failure?" "how to you display poise?" etc. If we reflect on what Brene's research shows this aligns perfectly. Our students will be asked about how they handle themselves. They will be asked about reset, living values, and they will be asked to open up and be vulnerable.
Let's take the time to teach these skills now. Let's build into our students.
Mindfulness is a research proven way to help build these skills and traits into us all.
This week I found a great website created by a teacher. The website is called Fortheloveofteachers.com. I encourage you to take some time to explore.
One of the things I found was titled cultivating mindfulness, teaching children to learn from failure.
This post had a great mindful practice that the teacher shared she uses daily with her students. They meet in the morning for a class meeting and they review ROAR.
You can take ROAR and review each step to help build resiliency, vulnerability, and learn from failure.
R: Recognize. Failure is normal. It happens to everyone.
O: Own it. Learn to be responsible for your action, no matter the outcome.
A: Accept. The only people who fail are those who do not try. Accepting your failures helps you learn to move on from them.
R: Reflect. This is the time to see how to fix, change, and try again. This step creates growth. This step creates recovery.
The next time a student is struggling and believes they are failing (and maybe they are) take some time to ROAR!
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