Welcome to weekly posts about mindfulness. Ideas and activities will be shared to inspire mindful moments.
Tuesday, December 19, 2023
Mindful Christmas Time
Tuesday, December 12, 2023
Monk Life
Wednesday, December 6, 2023
Choose Your Own Adventure
"Emotions are a choose your own adventure book."- Mason, 3rd grade
This quote from my friend Mason came after a discussion on emotions. I shared that emotions are right or wrong. Emotion are good or bad. They exist for a purpose. We can choose to learn the purpose and grow or we can get stuck in the emotion. I also shared with him that it is how we handle our emotions that matter. We can choose to learn how to handle our emotions or we can choose to let our emotions run wildly with of control.
Mason took time to take it all in and think about what this meant to him. He then shared that it was like reading a choose your own adventure book. No path in the book is wrong, but you usually enjoy one ending more than another.
I love this! I asked him if I could quote him and use this with others. He gave me full permission to share. He even asks from time to time if I have shared it yet. Please, after reading this blog let Mason know what you think of his emotions quote. It will be just the boost of confidence he might need that day.
Awhile back on my social media I shared someone else's thoughts on emotions. This one is more on the silly side.
Friday, December 1, 2023
Repair and Rebuild Relationships
15 Seconds to Change a Relationship
Are you struggling to reconnect with a student after a rupture? It is not easy to set aside pride and admit we could do things better. But we can do it. And we should do it.
The last time you had a student explode, did you explode too? What might it look like after if you repaired the relationship by naming how you could (and will) do better next time?
The video I included above is from the Instagram page of Dr. Becky Kennedy. While she talks to us from a parent point of view we can easily translate that into an education setting.
Taking time to let a student know that your anger at a situation might have scared them and they had the right to that feeling is a start. To continue on saying that the anger outburst was not their fault is the next step. And closing out with letting them you are working to reduce your reactivity is key.
Take a look at this next graphic...
Use the advice of Dr. Becky Kennedy and Dr. Gottman to help you repair, rebuild, or start to build a new relationship with a student.
Thursday, November 16, 2023
Deliberately Developmental
Thursday, November 9, 2023
Start Small
Friday, November 3, 2023
Gratitude Builds Us Better Together
An Attitude of Gratitude.
As we begin the month of gratitude we have an opportunity to express gratitude for the good that comes from our coworkers. Each of us has a Warm & Fuzzies sheet for others to leave little notes of positivity and gratitude. I love this idea for the staff. I wonder if we as staff can think of a way to expand this to our students as well. After all, the scientific research on gratitude teaches us that we can gain many benefit from starting and practicing a daily gratitude mindfulness.
UC Davis's professor of psychology Robert Emmons is one of the world's leading experts on gratitude and he states that there are two important components to gratitude.
The first part of gratitude is the affirmation of goodness. He states that gratitude helps us wake up to the good around us and helps us take notice of the gifts we are given.
The second part of gratitude is recognizing that the source of the goodness is outside of ourselves. Our gifts and the goodness comes from others.
I have a daily mindfulness practice of morning gratitude. This morning I really took time to think about my gratitude and where they have come from.
A gratitude of coffee (yes, some morning this is a gratitude) means I need to recognize someone, at some point in history figured out the "how to" to make it and now I get to enjoy it. Someone made the machine I use to grind the beans and the machine I use to make the fresh pot. I enjoy coffee because others have come before me with great ideas and wonderful inventions.
I love this new outlook on my gratitude. Really taking time to explore where and who the gratitude belongs to because it is outside of myself. While I might be the one making the coffee I am not the one who harvested and roasted the beans. I did not make the mug I use. My gratitude can begin to expand and I can explore new ways to be grateful.
Research also tells us that gratitude can become a "social glue" to bring us closer to others.
If my gratitude in the morning is toward my family and I begin to explore the gifts they give me I am going to feel closer to them. The closer I feel toward them, the more I am likely to show them kindness, love, compassion, and acts of generosity. I bring us closer together by being grateful for them.
As staff at a school we can begin to explore how to use gratitude to build a stronger community among the staff and the students. We can explore the gifts our coworkers give to us daily. We can also begin to explore the gifts our students give to us daily.
This is a great mindfulness opportunity for your students to build better relationships and form stronger social connections and glue your class together.
Building a gratitude practice is a great way to build strong positive recall in your brain. As we have explored in the past, our brains are hardwired toward the negative as a way to ensure survival. We must actively work to train our brains to have positive recall.
Having a gratitude practice can also be a great benefit to your physical wellbeing. Studies show that those who regularly practice gratitude report few headaches, digestive issues, or sleep problems. It has also been observed that those who focus on finding positives and practice gratitude tend toward healthier life choices. A couple of examples are healthier eating habits and being more active.
In her book The Thank You Project: Cultivating Happiness One Letter of Gratitude at a Time, author Nancy Davis Kho talks about her experience writing 50 letters of gratitude. At first she felt the pressure and uncertainty she would be able to complete this task. The more letters she wrote the more she was able to branch out past family and friends and begin to express more and more gratitude. Nancy reported that the experience boosted her mood and Nancy encourages others to explore writing letter of gratitude.
I challenge you to take this month of gratitude and write as many letters of gratitude as you can. Or at the very least take time to write on as many Warm & Fuzzies sheets as you can!
Wednesday, October 25, 2023
WTF Mindfulness
WTF Mindfulness
Now that I have your attention. What is WTF Mindfulness?
Asking ourselves "what's the function" of an emotion allows us space to consider if the emotion will support our mental health or if it will harm our mental health.
There are no wrong emotions. That being said, not all emotions are a benefit to our positive mental health. We need to allow an emotion space to exist while at the same time evaluating its function and our needs.
If we are angry the function might be to help us bring about change, address a conflict with a person, or seek personal growth.
Giving ourselves space to ask "what is the function" really is giving us time to seek out the origin of the emotion.
The anger's function is to help us change a situation because we are not happy with a situation. We are not happy because we disagree with how things are being handled.
We can track where and when the emotion started, what it's function is and then we give ourselves space to resolve the emotion.
Embrace the function of the emotion. Begin to utilize this to your benefit.
If the function of your anger is to create change. Create it!
What are you feeling today? What have you been feeling lately? What might be the function of that emotion?
Take time to start asking yourself WTF? Then help your students explore this concept, but maybe don't start with WTF.
Wednesday, October 18, 2023
Free Hugs
Have you ever had something pop up again and again on social media, movies, books, or life? When something repeats in my life I start to notice and pay attention. Over the last couple of weeks I have had hugging and mental health pop up again and again in my social media feed. So here we are, exploring hugging together.
Hugs Help Mental Health!
Our students often crave attention. Some will seek it out in negative ways. We have the opportunity to provide small moments of positive attention which can build trust and health. We can give a quick hug.
There are times when we may not always feel like giving hugs to others. For those times there are a couple of mindfulness practices we can teach our students.
This mindfulness is a great way to teach students (and adults) to take a mental break, imagine some place nice and calm and then to give yourself a hug.
Friday, October 13, 2023
Let Go Like A Tree
While my daughter may choose to see it as Elsa teaching to Let It Go, I prefer the idea of the trees teaching us this mindfulness.
The season of Autumn can teach us that there is beauty in change and letting go. The leaves on the trees turn brilliant and beautiful colors as they allow the passing of one season to the next. When looking up the above quote I found a variety of variations, some which even included the concept that Fall teaches us to let go of dead things. We may not like this imagery but it is an honest depiction of the transition from Summer to Fall as we prepare for Winter.
We can learn from the trees and let go of what should be dead to us. We can do this with the help of mindfulness.
In my research this week I found a helpful article from the Centre for Clinical Interventions in Australia.
This article was about a mindfulness practice on letting go. In it we are reminded that mindfulness is designed to help us skillfully disengage from negative thinking and let it go. We can untangle our thoughts and feelings and let go of what does not serve our greater mental health.
The practice of letting go mindfulness helps us learn to notice our negative thoughts and feelings and with skill, let them go.
Sometimes our thought and feelings shout at us and demand our attention. Mindfulness can help you learn to notice and turn down those thoughts. Not turn them off. But turn them down and observe and learn.
Letting go mindfulness implies in the name that we in fact once held onto a feeling, thought, or emotion. It existed.
When we learn to acknowledge what is going on inside of us we can learn to control how others see it playout on the outside.
Letting Go Mindfulness asks that we begin by asking ourselves the question; "what am I experiencing right now?" We take time to investigate, observe, and understand.
Take time to fully explore and feel.
Then begin to bring awareness to your breathing. And begin to say to yourself something as simple as "relax".
As you calm an emotion remind yourself "whatever I am experiencing, it is OK, I can feel it, work through it, and I can be OK."
Gently remind yourself that you can let go of a problem, feeling, thought, or emotion. Remind yourself that letting go can and will serve your greater mental health.
This last step is key. YOU MUST LET IT GO.
If you look back in the blogs you will find one that talks about the chemical duration of an emotion. The duration is about 90 seconds. After that we are engaging in what is called Rumination. Your brain will ruminate on something that your body is chemically over and has let go. You must train your brain to let go too.
Practice a letting go mindfulness this weekend and be ready for a fresh start next week. Find one thing to let go. And, Let Go!
Thursday, October 5, 2023
What is Bullying?
October is bullying awareness and prevention month.
This month we take time to talk with students about what is and isn't bullying. We share how to address bullying and ways to prevent it.
To help our students understand bullying, we need to first understand bullying.
The words Bully and Bullying are extremely over used. We cannot call all behavior bullying. We cannot call mean students bullies. This belittles true bullying situations. It also sets up students to have the misperception on what is going on.
I strongly recommend taking less than 30 minutes and listen to the podcast I have linked below.
Wednesday, September 27, 2023
Mirror Mirror in our Brains
Tuesday, September 19, 2023
Glimmer
Glimmer Fortis! Glimmer!
Tuesday, September 12, 2023
Inspiration builds mindfulness
What inspires you?
Who inspires you?
Who makes you a better person?
What makes you better at your job?
As you think about these questions, take some time to follow the links below. I found these three Instagram accounts this summer and have found sources of inspiration.
I encourage you to explore these three pages and see more posts. Matt has some great words of wisdom regarding teaching and relationship building. Ms. Chang brings humor to truths we see everyday and may choose to overlook. Kaelynn is a young lady with autism who now shares her experiences to help others.
As we begin this school year it is important to remember that our words and actions impact our students. Being mindful of our impact and working to make it a positive one may sound daunting but it's not. When we choose to build relationships into our day it becomes a natural part of our lives.
While working on this post, one of my long time special friend students came by my office. He stepped in and without hesitation asked "why are you always calm?" Our students notice our emotions, behaviors, and attitudes. I asked him "When needing to work on being calm would you rather come to someone calm or someone angry, loud, or engaging in high emotions?" He simply nodded in understanding and let me know that so far he was doing well this year.
The Calm App has a daily mindfulness called The Daily Jay. Today's (9/12) talked about imitating others verses making things uniquely your own. Jay shared a Bruce Lee quote that can help us reflect on how to present mindfulness to ourselves as well as our students. Maybe Bruce Lee can help inspire a new way to look at mindfulness.
Bruce Lee once said " Absorb what is useful. Discard what is not. Add what is uniquely your own."
As we give our students inspiration from our lives and mindfulness that works for us, we can encourage them to make it their own. Let them know what does and doesn't work for you and how you have made it your own.
Encourage your students to listen as you play Inner Explorer and find out what is useful and absorb it and calmly and quietly discard what is not. This is a great approach to getting your students to listen. They have to listen to know what to absorb and what to discard. Once they have decided to absorb something then encourage them to make it uniquely their own.
Let's work to inspire mindfulness. Let's be inspired and inspire others.
Thursday, September 7, 2023
Welcome to Week 2
Welcome back to school. Welcome to week 2 of a new year.
Quick Fact: Last school year, in the month of August we had 49 Inner Explorer practices utilized for a total of 160 mindful minutes. This year....last week... we had 184 practices utilized for a total of 658 mindful minutes!!! That is all of you doing your part to help our students take time to calm, reflect, and reset. Keep up the great work!
As we begin a new year we I want to take some time to reflect on what we have talked about in the past to help refresh our mindfulness practices.
We, as adults, set the tone for our students. We must lead by example and show our students what a mindful school looks like, each and every day.
In PD I shared the 4-7-8 breathing. I encourage you to use this practice to help you when you there is a challenge in front of you. As you reset your breathing, restart your outlook too. I have shared that my morning mindfulness practice starts with a reflection on gratitude. What (at least) three things am I grateful for today? Gratitude helps retrain the brain toward the positive.
Remember, the simplest definition of mindfulness is: Pay Attention, On Purpose, Without Judgement.
Knowing that mindfulness is paying attention, on purpose, without judgment, we can understand that anything can be mindfulness. We can be mindful during announcements by paying attention and not allowing ourselves to be distracted. We can be mindful at recess, focused on students and their movement and play. We can be mindful, always.
Take time this first month of school to establish a solid daily mindfulness routine. Build it into your schedule. Train the brain to know it's mindfulness time. Be mindful and show this to your students.
Monday, June 12, 2023
End of the School Year
Friday, June 9, 2023
Helping Others is Mentally A Good Idea
Wednesday, May 31, 2023
Finish Strong
Wednesday, May 24, 2023
What's on Your Bucket List
This time of year our students are ready to be done with school. Let's be honest, so are we. It can be hard to remain focused and on task. The weather is nice and sitting inside is the last thing most of us want to do.
Let's take some time this week to create an End of the Year Mindfulness Bucket List
Think about the mindfulness activities you've tired and love, those you want to try and haven't, and even those that were challenging and a deserve a second chance. What is making it on your bucket list?
I'll start a list and you jump in and share more. Let's Fill a Bucket List with Mindfulness!
1. Kindness Day: Have students do one kind thing for someone. Journal about it.
2. Take a mindful clean up walk. The playground needs some care from time to time.
3. Sit outside and notice the colors, sounds, and smells.
4. Set a water drinking goal for you class. Have a challenge.
5. Set a healthy food only day. Make it fun!
6. Take Inner Explorer outside. Grab your computer and hit the courtyard.
7. #5 can also be used as a mindful eating time. Talk about how to eat mindfully. There was a blog on mindful eat a couple of years ago.
8. Review old mindfulness blogs. Read one you missed. Reread one you liked. Remind yourself of something that you needed to hear and helped.
9.Mindful movement. Try yoga. Alo Gives is a great site with yoga mindfulness for kids. I used this for mindfulness session when we were virtual and the kids enjoyed it.
10. Feelings day. Review the mood meter. Check in on current mood and feelings regarding summer break.
11. Set summer goals (wishes). Mindfulness goals. Learning goals. Personal goals.
12. Gratitude lists. Start and/or end your days with some gratitude.
13. Mindful silence. You can do it. Set a time for a minute or two of reflective silence.
14. Journal. Write a prompt on the board. Make it fun. Make it meaningful.
15. Read a fun book to your class.
Remember mindfulness is about paying attention on purpose to the current moment/feeling without judgement. Get creative with how you help yourself and your students be in the moment.