Friday, June 6, 2025

Effort Even at the End


Watch starting at minute 24 and listen for about 60 seconds. The whole speech is worth a listen if you have 30 minutes. But if you don't, simply focus on minute 24. His message at minute 24  has had me thinking about the end of the school year and our effort.

Jay Shetty shares in his speech at Princeton that we should take a day and write down the things that took effort from that day. He asks us to note something that took energy, courage, and discipline. He asks us to forget what gets us praised and simply focus on effort.

As we wrap up the last week and get ready to close out the year, stop and think about what you have accomplished today that took effort. Jay's list included things such as, getting out of bed and staying calm in a difficult conversation. Small effort is still effort. Our effort matters. Our effort counts.

I am keeping this short and sweet. I encourage you to watch the video and take time to reflect. You've got this! 



 

Friday, May 30, 2025

Mindful Intention to Focus on Wins and Release the Rest

Last week we talked about the stress of the end of the year and ensuring we do not allow down time-clown time for our students.

This week lets talk about being intentional with ourselves at the end of the year.

On the website, cognitivecardiomath.com there is a list of 14 self-care tips for teachers. Reading them I can see where some as not as accessible as others. You cannot always take mini breaks, utilize your prep time for quiet time, and drink lots of water (because then someone has to cover you for the bathroom, all of your mini breaks will be bathroom stops). There were a couple however that stood out to me and I thought that we could explore them together.

To start with, very simply, begin each day with intent. 
When looking up the word intent you will find the definition filled with words such as; resolve, determination, and purpose.

Each day begin with a purpose. 
Each day begin with resolve.
Each day begin with determination.

Be determined to make the day the best day. Have a resolve to accomplish something productive. Set a purpose for the day.

The year may be ending but our effort does not have to end as well.

We can start each day with the intent to be calm. Resolve to do your own mindfulness. Center your brain, body, and feelings.

As you go about your day you can do self check-ins, asking yourself if you are making the most of day. Check in and ensure that you have a sense of purpose and a determination to fulfil that purpose. 

After having a day full of intent we can wrap up with an End of the Day "Wins" List. 

I liked this idea because I felt that it was a great way to bookend our day. We start with intent and end with our wins. It's basically the most mindful day you could have. 😉

Doing a wins list is similar to having an end of the day gratitude list. Studies show that gratitude lists help us be happier, have a more positive outlook, and seek out positive opportunities. Having a wins list, I believe, could be the same. 

At the end of the days that seem long, challenging, and stressful sit and find a win or two. Perhaps that one student who is always loud had a quieter day. Maybe students offered to help clean. Take time to notice what is a win, small things that are positive are just as much a win as big things that are positive. 

I hope that this week's small blog helps give you somethings to think about as we wrap up the year.

What is your intention for each day?
What were your daily wins?

Start and end your days the mindful way and see if it helps reduce stress.

Last but not least, take time to reflect and release.

Not everything will be positive in your day. Do not hold on. Reflect on what happened, how it could change, and what you will do next time. Then, release. 

Reflect and Release is another mindful way to utilize your time and energy. 

Intention
Wins List
Reflect and Release

Wednesday, May 21, 2025

School Year Wrap Up

 This time of year it is easy to become discouraged. You are tired. You are ready for the year to come to a close. You feel the energy of the students, the energy that says "good-bye, I've checked out." 

Take a minute to watch the video by Jay Shetty. I hope that his words help you realize you are still here and you are still going. 

"If it was meant to break you, it would have. If it was meant to stop you, you wouldn't be here."-Jay Shetty

You are here and you are pushing forward. 

Now that you've had your pep-talk, let's help you really feel like you can make it through these last few weeks.

In last week's What About Behavior email an idea was shared about Lame Duck sessions in government and applying this idea to school. As you wrap up curriculum it can seem as if there is little to share with the students to hold their attention. But if you remember reading Erin's weekly email she reminded us "down time is clown time." Here is the link to the Lame Duck article. I encourage you to take some time to read the ideas presented. I will take some time to highlight a few ideas here to help get you started.

The article breaks up the ideas into; low prep, medium prep, and high prep.

Low Prep

1. Clean Up. This is an easy and helpful way to use the last few days of school.
2. Thank You Notes. I love this idea. It's a very mindful idea. You could even do a mindfulness and then move into this activity. Write thank you notes to teachers, students, parents, etc. 
3. The Compliment Project. Watch the video here. Did you feel all of the feels with these kids? Imagine how you could wrap up your school year with this activity.
4. Go Outside. Now this article talks about playing Red Rover... 😧... maybe not this one, but go outside and read a book, listen to a mindfulness, clean up, etc

Medium Prep
1. Coloring Books.
2. Read Aloud.
3. Board Games and Card Games. TECH FREE TIME PLEASE! Think about all of the time we have students on screen for school work. Think about how much time they spend on screens at home. Give them what their brains need. Thinking skills. Communication skills. Following rules. Collaboration. Cooperation. 
4. Mindfulness Practice. What if you had a mindful morning. Do an Inner Explorer, listen to calming music, dim the lights, etc. You can mindfully eat. Bring foods to try in a mindful way. Mindfully listen to new sounds. 

I just had a great idea....Write positive notes to future students of that grade. You could give students post-its and have them write positive statements, you put them in a box, and in the fall bring them out and put them on desks.

High Prep
1. Genius Hour. Allow students an hour to research a topic of their choice and have them present on this idea.
2. Student Video Project. This could be a variety of things that you allow them to create.
3. Student/Teacher Unconference. If you read this one it sounds cool, but it does need a lot of prep and time. Maybe a small scale would be Student Ted Talks. Take what they research during Genius Hour and allow them to give a Ted Talk.

There are a variety of ways to change down time to activity time. Make your time intentional, maybe fun, and hopefully helpful. 

Incase you didn't click the last link here is the video from that article. It's less than 5 minutes, it's worth the watch.






Friday, May 9, 2025

Optimist or Pessimist ... or Practical Optimism

"Manage your emotions before they manage you."-Dr. Sue Varma

Dr. Varma is a psychiatrist who has treated patients who were near and effected by the tragedies of 9/11. Through her work and research Dr. Varma has written a book  Practical Optimism. This week we will explore some of her wisdom. 

80% of people will experience a life threatening situation. Only 8% of people will ever meet the criteria for PTSD. 

Optimist and pessimist experience the same amount of adversity. Optimists are better equipped to handle situations. Studies show that it takes more effort to suppress an emotion rather than express it. When you suppress your emotions your body will express what your mind cannot. 

You may have heard that when it comes to emotions we need to "name it to tame it" Dr. Varma expands this to help us begin to explore and practice Practical Optimism.

Dr. Varma tells us to:

Name it
Claim it
Tame it
Reframe it

Name it: Naming the feeling and naming its origin. This is tying a feeling back to a specific event.

Claim it: Where in the body do you feel it? This again is that idea that the body expresses what the mind cannot. Claiming emotions helps us with our "forbidden" emotions. These emotions are the ones we feel we cannot express due to fear of what might happen.

Statistically 85% of the time the things we worry about never actually happen. The other 15% of the time we are better equipped to handle it than we think.

Tame it: Taming our Ruminative Loops. Ruminative loops are repeating the same emotions over and over. It's the what ifs and catastrophizing. Taming is about soothing. Soothing should not create a negative habit, which means we should not be utilizing alcohol as a soother. We should make a five minute phone call to a friend. Text someone who will be supportive. Walking. This one is amazing because it can get you out of your own head and the science behind what our eyes have to do to keep us balanced as we walk is another way our bodies work on calming and taming.

We can also take time to journal or meditate. Taming our emotions is the perfect time to utilize our mindfulness practice.

Reframe it: We take back control. We say that we are not going to let this control or debilitate us. Look at the situation from someone else's point of view.

Dr. Varma, used this when working with 9/11 victims. She shares that the reframing process is a powerful technique often used in trauma processing. 

We can ask "Is this a problem to be solved or accepted?"

Not everyone is born an optimist, but everyone can work toward becoming a practical optimist. It's about brain training and working forward. 

Practical optimism is not always looking on the sunny side of a situation.

We cannot fake it till you make it,  Dr. Varma reminds us that we need to do the work. 

Practical optimism is a practice of gratitude to give ourselves the grace to be where we are at in our current lives.

As we keep pushing forward toward the end of the school year it seems that the observed behaviors are big, loud, and disruptive. What might our students be expressing with their behaviors? Maybe they are suppressing more forbidden emotions. And now their bodies are expressing what their minds cannot.

We need to ensure that we are working on our outlook to become better equipped to help our students handle what may come. 

Do the work for you and you will be able to help your students do the work too. 


If you would like to hear more on this topic look up The Happiness Lab podcast and listen to the episode with Dr. Varma.



Friday, May 2, 2025

Resources to Explore

 Without internet access for a couple of days I have not been able to do my usual research regarding a topic of mindful support. This week I will simply share out some resources that I find helpful. I hope you can take the time to explore and utilize them during this last month of school.


https://www.centervention.com/social-emotional-learning-activities/


https://www.overcomingobstacles.org/portal/en/grade-level/elementary-k-2


https://breatheforchange.com/resources/


https://www.middleweb.com/47080/relationship-building-with-dialogue-journals/


https://www.additudemag.com/


https://www.cope24-7.net/ (mental health resource for children and adults)


https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLc0asrzrjtZJWljYTAwKM6mdb4RfoiSxx


https://innerexplorer.com/ 😉


https://www.mindup.org/


https://www.clickondetroit.com/all-about-ann-arbor/2022/04/19/5-tips-for-finishing-the-school-year-strong/


https://positivepsychology.com/mindfulness-for-children-kids-activities/



Thursday, April 24, 2025

Earth Day the Mindful Way

Earth Day, April 22, 2025




While the official Earth Day has come and gone for the year, I thought it might be fun to explore it in a mindful way. We can continue Earth Day all year long.

Earth Day has been celebrated since 1970. Each year it grows and currently it is globally recognized by 193 countries and involves over 1 billion people. 

While Earth Day has played a role in environmental advocacy, it can also teach us a thing or two about being mindful.   

According to Calm.com (online of the Calm app), celebrating Earth Day can benefit mental health. It has been shown to give people a sense of purpose and belonging. Working together with others creates a community and a sense of accomplishment. Being out in nature can also help improve mood and ones overall sense of wellbeing.

How can we as a school connect Earth Day, or simply caring for Earth, with mindfulness? Let's explore!

When we engage in activities involving caring for others we give our brains a positive mental health boost. Caring for the earth can be just as rewarding for our brains.

Studies have shown that spending time in nature can reduce stress and depression. 

Caring for nature can help us look outside of ourselves and consider the ways we can better our community and surroundings.

Being out in nature also encourages us to turn off and put down screens and be present. Mindfulness is all about being in the present moment. Putting down our phones and stepping outside to be in nature and care for nature boosts our present awareness. 

This time of year as it warms up it is a great time to take students outside to spend time in nature. It is a great time to be of service to nature and encourage your students to take care of our school and clean up the playground and back field. 

You can find many Earth Day/Earth friendly mindfulness on the Calm app. If you do not have the Calm app YouTube has a variety of mindfulness related to the earth, being outside, and the elements.


This time of year I love to have students take outdoor walks to help calm, refocus, and help them be ready to reenter class. Taking time to watch and engage in a walking mindfulness and then trying it out with a student or your whole class could be a calming and helpful experience for you and your students.

Make every day Earth Day in a mindful way!

Tuesday, April 15, 2025

How do you RSVP to Power Struggles?

Power Struggles don't have to happen. I love how Dr. Becky says that when kids invite us to power struggles we do not have to accept the invitation. RSVP No to the power struggle party. That is not a party you want to attend. (If the link does not work go to Instagram and search Dr. Becky and look for Power Struggle post, it's a good one.)

But power struggles happen. They happen at home with our children. They happen at school with our students. But they do not have to happen. We have options. 

According to Psychologytoday.com, a power struggle is defined as an attempt to use coercion, force, and threats in response to a challenging behavior.

We have all seen adults RSVP Yes to a power struggle when a student will not comply. When an adult engages in a power struggle it is a sort of co-escalation situation and is almost always counterproductive.

Power struggles take an already challenging situation and make it even more difficult. All emotions begin to escalate and a resolution becomes much more difficult.

Students, as well as adults often face a variety of frustrations outside of school in their personal lives. If unskilled at addressing emotions those frustrations may find there way into school and interactions with those at school. 

When a power struggle appears to be starting it is important to remember that it is the job of the adult to support a student, not control a student.

Before we get into some strategies presented by psychology today and the website needsfocusteaching.com, I would like to encourage you to take the time and read the linked article from Edutopia.

The article from Edutopia gave some great examples of being curious (call back from two weeks ago!) as a way to prevent a power struggle you see coming.

We can utilize curiosity as a great way to reduce the likelihood of a power struggle. We can take time to show interest and understanding. 

Below is a great list of ways to prevent power struggles:

1. Communicate respect and promote dignity. 
    When we lead by example students are more likely to trust us. We need to show respect even in challenging situations. Modeling behavior is a great way to teach behavior.

2. Build and maintain good rapport
    There will always be that one student who can push even the calmest of calm teachers. Build a healthy relationship and work on maintaining it, no matter how the student pushes back.

3. Q-TIP
    That's right. Erin's wise words she shared at the beginning of the school year are here in psychology today. Quit Taking It Personally. Again this is that idea that we need to manage our own feelings before we can address others feelings and behaviors. Reflect back on what we already talked about with students and adults bringing in outside baggage. Q-TIP! Know your triggers and tap out when needed.

4. Provide Choices
    Choices you are ok with the student picking. "Are you going to get started or just sit there?" are not good choice options. Never ask a question you do not want the answer to. "Are you going to put on your coat?"
    Try: "You may choose to do your work now and have a fun recess. Or you may do your work at recess."

5. Pick Your Battles
    Not every battle needs to be won. Not every battle needs to be fought. Ask yourself if the battle matters enough. Does it meet a goal? Is it an important part of the curriculum? Is it contributing to the positivity and productivity of the classroom?

6. Reinforce Desirable Behavior
    Focus more on the positive than the negative. Try to have more positive interactions. For every negative interaction try to have two positive interactions.

7. Simply Be Helpful
    Be supportive and uplifting. Show students you care.

8. Change Staff
    We've talked about knowing your triggers, Q-TIP, and tapping out if needed. It is ok to need a break. It is ok to know your limits. It is better to ask for help than to get into a power struggle that escalates you and the student.

9. Provide Leadership Roles and Opportunities
    Instead of a power struggle, give responsibility. Give a student a reason to want to be in your class. Help them by asking them to help you (remember that blog and lesson from good ol' Ben Franklin?).

10. Collaborate with Them
    This idea has me reflecting back to the Edutopia article from earlier. Work with not against a student. Be curious. 

We have choices. Choices other than engaging in power struggles. We can build relationships, collaborate, and support good behavior. We can ask for help, not take it personally, and give opportunities for leadership. 

RSVP No to power struggles.

Below is a picture with some more help tips regarding how to avoid or deescalate power struggles.

Wednesday, April 9, 2025

Mindful Apology Acceptance

Teaching our students how to give a proper apology is not that hard. We can talk them through all of the steps beyond saying "I'm sorry." The step after the apology is often and easily missed. 

Have you ever been part of an apology? Have you ever listened to an apology? More often than not the response to an apology is "it's ok." And this is anything but ok.

Research by psychologist Dr. John Gottman shows the importance of being able to rebound from conflict and return to positive communication.

Dr. Gottman also shares in his research that apologies can be humiliating, which is often a deterrent to repeating negative behaviors.

On the Calm app's Daily Jay from April 7, 2025, Jay talks about how apologies allow space for self-awareness and accountability. 

When we consider what Jay shares and Dr. Gottman, then we need to consider how we respond to ensure we are supporting the process of self-awareness and accountability. When someone apologizes and we respond with "it's ok" we negate the accountability. 

Psychologists Dr. Regina Lazarovich and Dr. Catherine Nobile have also researched giving and accepting apologies.

Dr. Nobile shares that apologies are a chance to heal and grow. She also shared that declining an apology is the polar opposite and can lead to unhealed wounds, unresolved negative feelings, and resentment. 

This lesson teaches us that the apology is just as much for the giver and it is the receiver. In fact, even if we may not feel ready to hear the apology we need to allow the space and time for it to happen. We can then share a variety of helpful responses. Expressing appreciation for he other person taking responsibility reinforces the improvement of behaviors. 

The following are some examples of apology acceptances we can give and can teach our students to express.

1. Thank you for apologizing. I hear that you didn't mean to cause me harm, and I know that admitting your mistake was a vulnerable thing to do. I accept your apology and appreciate your commitment to doing better in the future.

2. Thank you for your apology. It really helps me that you have taken accountability. 

3. Thank you for admitting how you contributed to this situation. I accept your apology, and I'm also sorry for my part. 

4. I accept your apology and I'm still feeling very hurt and upset. I want to forgive you, but I need more time to process what happened.

5. I really appreciate this, and your apology resonates. How can we make this less likely to happen in the future?

6. I accept your apology, and what you did was not okay. For us to continue to have a relationship, I need X,Y,Z to change going forward.

7. It takes a big person to admit when they are wrong. I appreciate that.

8. I accept your apology and what you did was not okay. The harm that you caused is not something I can forgive. To protect myself from further hurt, I no longer want us to have any sort of relationship or communication. Please respect my decision.

Obviously that last one is for true hurt that breaks trust and limits the ability to rebuild trust. The last is to be used when significant harm has occurred. 

Responding to the apology matters just as much as the apology itself. Teaching children to show an understanding that it takes a lot to apologize teaches empathy and compassion. Apologizing is not easy and should never be dismissed. Take the time to hear a student apologize. Take the time to practice apologies and apology acceptance with students.



Friday, April 4, 2025

Stay Curious, Stay Connected

 


At the beginning of the year it is easy to be curious when it comes to our students. As the year progresses we begin to feel that our students should understand and follow expectations and we be come less curious and more judgmental. 

We need to stay curious. The clip below, from the show Ted Lasso, reminds us about being curious.


Instead of judgment regarding a situation, behavior, or even a student themselves; be curious. Back in December we had a blog on the question why, if you do not remember it I encourage you to look back and reread it. That blog asks us to begin exploring why things are happening and why a student behaviors the way they do, why we feel the way we feel, etc. Being curious means asking why,  and not assuming you know the answer.

As we remember to stay curious we can be more open to building or if needed repairing relationships with students. 

A simple way to connect, build relationships, or begin repair, is to engage in mindfulness with your students. 

Before spring break we concluded our Inner Explorer mindfulness competition. During the month of March you were encouraged to do mindfulness daily with your students, and even invite admin to join. I hope that this does not stop. In fact, I would encourage you to continue to use mindfulness as we move into testing season. Continue the connect with a mindfulness before you start a test.

According to Edtopia.org a study conducted in 2020 showed that student teacher relationships are associated with outcomes related to academic achievement. The better the relationship, the higher the academic success.

If our relationships with students support their achievement then right now is a perfect time to refocus on your relationship building. You may have one student who really needs your encouragement before they begin taking state testing.

A study from 2022 showed that students are more likely and more willing to go the extra mile with their academics if they are being educated in a supportive environment and adults have built trusting relationships with them.

Below is a video I came across this week. It provides a good laugh and a little food for thought. How do you handle the student you can tell "hates" you? How do you build that relationship?


Build and bank relationship time.

Remember that emotions are contagious. A 2021 study suggests that teacher emotions have a powerful effect on students. The students will reflect them and more often than not it takes a greater amount of time to recover from negative emotions over positive emotions. Your mood can change the mood of your students in a positive and negative way.

Be the mood you want to see in your students.

When asking the why  questions take a minute to separate yourself from a situation and ask if a student's behavior is a reflection of your mood? Could you be the why?

Making sure that we do our own mindfulness and are participating with our students can help us ensure we are always checking our attitudes, feelings, and thoughts. We can help our students by being the example of mindfulness and connect with them through mindfulness.
 
Remember that relationship building does not have to end after the first month of school. We can continue to find ways to connect or reconnect with our students.


Wednesday, March 19, 2025

Spring Cleaning for Your Space and Mind

 Spring Cleaning. 

Many people take time in the spring to engage in spring cleaning. Going around their space and cleaning out the old, decluttering, organizing, and making the space clean and comfortable.

In the spring (or any time of year) we can spring clean the mind. We can use mindfulness ideas to help clean our space and our mind.

We can sweep away self-criticism, declutter negative thoughts, organize our needs, and polish up what keeps us moving forward.

Studies show that a space filled with junk and clutter creates stress in the brain and body. The external stimuli of a cluttered space can make for a cluttered mind.

In a recent survey most Americans listed home organization and cleanliness among their top five stressors. 

Spring cleaning our space can have a positive effect on our mental as well as physical health. If we add spring cleaning of the mind to our spring cleaning to-do list we can increase the benefits for our mind and body.

It can seem overwhelming to start the spring cleaning task. You may not know where or how to start. Here are some mindful tips for spring cleaning space and mind.

First, make a do-to list. What spaces need to be clean? What words of self-criticism need to be removed?

Next, decide your pacing. Would you rather go slow and steady (last week's turtle) or clean in short bursts? 

Slow and steady looks more like picking a space and slowing cleaning until it is done.

Short bursts is about picking a time limit and clean as much as you can in that time.

Do you need to slowly stop your negative self-talk, reducing it down day by day or can you mindfully stop and swiftly clean it out of your life.

Have a plan for your "junk." A Keep, Give, Toss, system. After you have cleaned consider the idea of 1 in 2 out to keep the space clean and keep the clutter from returning. 

 As you consider your keep pile, spend time reconnecting with items and their meaning. As we reconnect with why we are keeping an item spend time reconnecting with your values. Use a mindful approach. What are you keeping in your life that serves your greater mental and physical well-being.

Studies show that women specifically carry higher levels of cortisol, a stress hormone, especially when a space is cluttered. Taking control of your environment can help you take control of your physical health as well.

Cleaning also creates a physical activity. We have to move. This is something to consider for your daily routine. What can you clean daily? How active are you with this cleaning? Can you be more active?

Reframe your feelings toward cleaning. Reframe your feelings toward yourself. 

Cleaning is scientifically proven to improve your living space, your physical health, and your mental health. 

How can we apply this to our students?

Have daily cleaning chores in your class. Do spring desk clean out. Do cubby spring cleaning. Do locker spring cleaning. 

Talk with your students about organization and help them set up a system to stay organized. Make a daily check list of cleaning and organization. 

Consider the whole class space and make to-do lists for each space. Give responsibility to your students and let them take charge of cleaning.

Before you start do a mindfulness and talk about cleaning out your mind.

Do a wrap up mindfulness and talk about how good it feels to sit in a clean space.

Take a trip outside. Encourage them to clean their outside shared space. Talk about being in nature and caring for nature.

Remember mindfulness is being in the present moment and paying attention without judgement. Do not criticize during cleaning time. Make it mindful. Encourage, praise, and remind that as we declutter our space we can take deep breaths and declutter our minds. 


 

Monday, March 17, 2025

Mindfulness Helps Win the Race

 ****This was set to go out last week and then the full moon and eclipse took over and our students kept me busy. As you read the beginning of this blog keep in mind it was typed out last week and I didn't want to edit it. *****

Endurance 

We are simply trying to make it through Friday, a full moon, and a lunar eclipse. And then the final week before spring break. We are simply attempting to find endurance.

In 2018 studies found mindfulness trending up.

In 2020 Google Trends showed mindfulness had dropped by a 1/3.

Here we are in 2025 seeing more and more research showing us that mindfulness has more benefits beyond calming students, focusing brains, and helping to reduce stress.

Recent studies show that athletes who regularly practice mindfulness (one study used a baseline of at least 41.7 minutes a week) showed more endurance and less mental fatigue. 

If athletes gain endurance and reduce mental fatigue utilizing mindfulness, we too can use mindfulness to endure the week before spring break. We too can reduce our metal fatigue. We can also help our students do the same.

As I researched this topic I thought of Aesop's fable, The Tortoise and the Hare. This could almost be a story of mindful endurance verse distracted overconfidence. When we think we do not need mindfulness and become overconfident we allow distractions to control our brain and thus our actions. Yet when we mindfully keep pace and have a focus, we can accomplish our goals.

Think about ways you can use mindfulness to gain endurance. Think about how you can use it to help your students.

Here is a fun mindfulness that came to mind as I thought about the tortoise....

Have students hold out their hand, palm up. Ask them to imagine a tiny turtle on their hand. Share that like turtles we need to move slow with our breath. Have them a deep breath in. Then while breathing out slowly encourage them to imagine the tiny turtle slowly walking across the hand. 

Here is a mindful turtle coloring page which is free on TPT. 

After you teach your students the turtle breath give them the coloring page and allow some quiet mindfulness time. Encourage them to be the mindful tortoise and be slow and steady with their coloring. Encourage them to take time to be calm, quit, and color the very best they can.

Slow and Steady.... Mindful Endurance helps win the race.



Friday, March 7, 2025

Which Voice Do You Hear? ....how about your students?

 


Talking to yourself doesn't make you crazy. In fact it might make you smarter, happier, and healthier. 


Just this week I overheard a first grader state "my life is the worst!" This kind of self-talk is negative self-talk and can be harmful. A lot of our students and perhaps a lot of us adults, often engage in harmful negative self-talk. 

While negative self-talk can harm us, positive self-talk can support our mental health, help regulate emotions, and reduce anxiety. 

Our words matter. Especially the ones we say to ourselves. If we do not talk kindly to ourselves we are less likely to talk kindly to others. 

For many of our students positive talk does not occur at home. They likely hear a lot of negative talk about adults, themselves, and negative self-talk from caregivers. 

In her book Good Inside Dr. Becky talks about adopting mantras and encouraging children to do the same. Mantas are another form of self-talk. A short sound, word, or phrase that create a positive and productive feeling and behavior. Dr. Becky shares that mantras help during challenging situations. When there is a struggle a mantra can help build confidence. 

Below are a few examples of mantras and positive self-talk.

Children who struggle with test taking may need a manta such as:
-My mind is brilliant
-I've got this
-Trust my gut

Students who struggle with motivation may need a mantra of:
-Move 1% forward
-Progress not perfection
-I am choosing to have a productive day

A child who struggles with feelings and emotions may need:
-I am in control of my emotions
-I am grateful for my life
-My positive thoughts guide me

Other good mantras to adopt:
-Trust the process
-Forgive and let go
-Everything is figureoutable
-I am responsible for my reactions
-I am moving forward
-I believe in my abilities
-There is no can't only won't
-Things are hard before they are easy
-My power comes from my choices
-Discomfort means growth
-I'm not afraid to be wrong

If you awork with younger grades you'll know this one from Inner Explorer;

-I have the power to make wise choices

If we choose to adopt a mantra and positive self-talk and then use it around students they will hear and learn this behavior. 

When we want to change a student's behavior we must start with our own. For a lot of young children learning by example is easier than being told what to do. We've talked before about students barrowing our calm or chaos. They will also barrow our positivity or negativity.  

What moments during the day could use more positive self-talk or a mantra?
Once you start, then take time to begin to encourage your students to start using mantas too. 
Try putting a mantra post-it note on desks daily. 
Greet students with a positive affirmation or mantra.

Find ways to add more positivity to your day for you and your students. 

Friday, February 28, 2025

Aspect-Shift


 "See a child differently, see a different child."- Dr. Shanker

Have you ever found yourself saying something like the following:
"This student is so lazy."
"This student never tries."
"This student does not listen."
"This student has the worst attitude."

If we are honest, we all have had those thoughts, or similar. We need to learn to do a mind shift. Much like our Most Generous Interpretation of a student's behavior, we need to shift our view of the student.

"This student is so lazy." ->aspect shift-> "This student looks tired, I wonder if they slept well."
"This student never tries." ->aspect shift-> "This student appears to struggle with math, I wonder how we can help."
"This student does not listen." ->aspect shift-> "This student is having a difficult time complying with my requests, I wonder if he is confused and how I can reframe things for better understanding."
"This student has the worst attitude." ->aspect shift-> "This student is struggling to express her emotions and appears overwhelmed by her emotions."

Dr. Shanker shares on his website Self-Reg.Ca and in his practice that we need an aspect shift to see students differently and we will see a different student. 

Our aspect-shift can start with our thinking, our MGI, but it also should include more.

An aspect-shift incorporates our full self.

When we approach a student we struggle to connect with due to behavior or attitude we need to reflect on:
-Facial Expression
-Eye Gaze
-Tone of Voice
-Gestures
-Posture

We need to aspect shift ourselves. How we interact. We need to shift to self-regulation.

Our own self regulation matters. Until a child learns to self regulate they will borrow our regulation. A child will not only notice your self regulation but they will mirror it and share your calm. If you are not calm, a child also share your chaos. 

How you see a child and how you approach and interact with them can change the situation in a split second. 

Regulating a child starts with regulating yourself. Your self-regulation will help you begin to see your student differently, it will help with your aspect shift.

Take some time to think about that one student who seems to always be causing problems in your class. As yourself:
-How do stand when I am by them? Do I tower over or get down to their level? Do I sit with them? Am I standing straight and stiff or am I relaxed and calm?
-How do I hold my hands? Do I hold my arms across my body? Am I using my hands to talk? Are my hands in fists?
-What is the tone of my voice? Calm and even or loud, high-pitched, and fast?
-Where am I looking? Am I so angry (and not remembering q-tip) I avoid eye contact?
-What does my face read? Is it relaxed or tense? How are my eyebrows?

70% of communication is non-verbal. It is not what we say but how we say it and how we look when we say it.  And children are excellent at reading body language. They will unconsciously react to your unspoken interactions with them.

What might that next interaction look like with your challenging student if you; first thought about your non-verbal communication, second you regulated your own emotions, and then lastly saw the student from a different perspective?  

We need to aspect shift to see our students in a different light and use MGI. Aspect shifting starts with ensuring we are regulating ourselves. We can't see a different differently if we are seeing red from our own anger. 
 
We don't have difficult students giving us a hard time. We have good students having a difficult time.

Friday, February 21, 2025

TALK and Connect

This week has been one of those weeks where I have tossed around a lot of ideas for the blog and nothing seemed to fit just right. That is until yesterday. A combination of the podcast I listened to while making dinner and the audio book I listened to while on the treadmill inspired the ideas and suggestions I am about to share. I hope that you find some wisdom and inspiration, as I did, and begin to plan ways you too can use the information.

Last night I listened to Armchair Experts, Expert on Expert, Alison Wood Brooks. Alison is a professor at Harvard with a popular course called, TALK: How to talk gooder in business and life. Alison is also the author of the book, TALK, The Science of Conversation and the Art of Being Ourselves.

As I listened I began to think about how we can apply her conversation ideas to our classrooms and interactions with our students.

Alison shares in her book and class ways in which we can become better conversationalist. Most people believe either someone is good or someone is bad at having a conversation and that is it. But it's not. We can work on how to have better conversations. 

TALK is an acronym that can help us think about how we have conversations with others.

T: Topics. We do not always know, in the moment, what to talk about with others. If we know we are meeting someone new, having a meetings, or doing a one-on-one we can take time to preplan at least two to three topics. This creates a feeling of calm, ready, and curiosity.

When I think about our students I wonder if we ever preplan a topic of conversation. If you have a 2x10 student have you preplanned your topics or are you just coming up with them on the fly. Try planning a couple things each day. This will help the conversation start more easily and flow better.

A: Ask. When we talk to others we need to ask questions. Questions in which we do not know the answers. Explore. Understand. Get to know.

When you preplan a topic for a 2x10 student think of questions that you do not know yet but would love to find out. Questions that are non-school related.

L: Levity. Balance your topics with humor, warmth, and gravity. 

When we get to know our students it is good to think of light topics to start with and build as we grow the relationship. Over the course of your 2x10 begin to preplan questions that explore the students whole world. Ask lighthearted questions and questions that make your student think.

K: Kindness. Speak with respect. Engage receptively, even with opposing views. Listen responsibly. 

I always share with students that we are listening to understand not to respond. A kind conversation wants to know the information not just share the information.

That old saying "Think before your speak (talk)" really means more to me now. I will think about TALK before I talk. I may even start to make a list of topics to talk about with students and make a list of great questions. Being ready to talk with a student can help build the relationship quicker and stronger.

Now that we have learned how to TALK, lets dive back into Good Inside with Dr. Becky. 

In Chapter 11 Dr. Becky talks about building connections with children. Dr. Becky shares that if we want to see undesirable behavior diminish and stop, we first need to build connection.

Dr. Becky shares that she started PNP with her children. Play No Phones. This is a 10-15 minute block of time at least once a week. No electronics. Child driven. Time together.

Again this idea had me reflecting on 2x10. Or if you rather maybe take 10-15 minutes once a week from lunch, recess, or specials. No electronics. Let the student pick a game to play or topic of talk. If it's talk, be prepared with some of your TALK tips. Dr. Becky shared that this is a great time for reflections or parallel play. If the student wants to color, color with them. If the student wants to walk quietly, walk with them. This is a time to let a student know you are there for them and it has nothing to do with how well they are doing their work or how good their behavior may or may not be that day. Fill them up.

In her chapter on connection Dr. Becky also shares about The Fill Up Game. For her this was created when she observed her oldest son struggling when her youngest child was born. For them it looked like hugs and snuggles until her son was "filled up" and had a little extra mom so he could go play on full not empty.

For us with students this looks like time, attention, and being there for a student not just when you need to redirect or discipline. Again as I listened I kept reflecting on 2x10 or committing to a lunch once a week with a student, or the first 15 minutes of specials. A special time of positive connection to fill, build, and bond.

How might your classroom change if you practiced TALK and connection?

Can you pick one student out next week and give it a try?



Wednesday, February 12, 2025

MGI


Last week I started a book that is amazing. You may find me sharing from it as I continue to listen. It's about a 10 hour listen, so there is a lot of good information to come our way. The book is called Good Inside by Dr. Becky Kennedy.

Dr. Becky Kennedy, if you aren't familiar, is amazing! Her focus is parenting, children, and parent-child relationships. So, as you can guess, Good Inside is about parenting. But that doesn't mean it cannot apply to other aspects of our lives. In fact Dr. Becky shares in the book that the parenting skills she shares can be applied to any of our relationships. 

The first lesson I want to share is MGI, Most Generous Interpretation. 

This lesson has stuck with me and has encouraged me to pause and rethink a situation as it is happening and after it has happened.

Dr. Becky encourage us to look at a situation and give some benefit of the doubt. We need to remind ourselves that the other person does not mean malice toward us and is not intentionally trying to harm us. If you think about it MGI is similar to Q-TIP.

We aren't taking things personally and we are stepping back to give a generous interpretation of a situation. 

I want to make a quick disclaimer, MGI does not excuse abuse and is not to be applied in those kind of situations. MGI is for our everyday life behaviors. 

MGI is assuming the best in others. It does not excuse their behaviors but rather gives space around the why  of the behavior.

Dr. Becky shares in her book that when a situation occurs we need to give the MGI. 

For example; a student is working quietly and then as if out of no where begins to shout and scream. We could tell them to stop. We could ask them what is wrong with them, you know what I mean "ask" but its more a statement "what is wrong with you?" Or we could use the MGI and say to ourselves that this is a student having a difficult moment and they need help. 

Let's use a more dramatic example. A student is visibly upset and begins throwing things. We could assume they are out of control, they don't care about others, and that they are a bad kid. Or we could use the MGI and ask why (to ourselves). This student is observed to be in distress. They probably have a learned angry behavior and being young their brain isn't fully developed and does not know another way to handle their emotions. 

We have a student that often gives attitude. The parent has identified that the attitude occurs with them as well. We could decide that this student is just a pre-teen full of undesirable attitude.  We could say that she is a bad kid with a bad attitude. Maybe we might even believe the behavior is intentional to anger us. Or we can use the MGI and look at the bigger picture. The home life. The instability. The tired look in her eyes. We do not excuse the behavior, but we see the bigger picture. We don't take it personally. We hold her accountable but also when she is ready to talk and hear reason, we give her understanding.

When my daughter takes her sweet time getting ready for bed at night I try hard to remember to give her the MGI. She loves to play with her stuffies. She loves to play school. She loves to read books. She loves to spend time with mom. She isn't being defiant and bad. She is taking her time to gain more time. MGI. She doesn't want to be alone in her bedroom. If I take time to acknowledge her feelings and express my own she can learn bedtime is not the worst time. Yelling at her to go to bed will not help her feel better about being alone. Yelling at her will not help her get ready for bed faster.

As educators we can look at our students behaviors and ask ourselves why and give the most generous interpretation.

Dr. Brene Brown also did some research into the MGI. Her findings tell us that those who are generous with their interpretations of others words and actions are happier and more fulfilled.

Extending the MGI helps those in the crisis moment and helps those handling the crisis moment.




 Could you try to look at a student and give them the MGI of their behaviors and attitude? 

Friday, February 7, 2025

Hurry Up and Grow Up

 The Hurried Child.

The first time you hear this term you may believe that it refers to us making children "hurry up" or "move faster." 

The truth is making our children or students move fast is not The Hurried Child of Hurried Child Syndrome. Hurried Children are those who are overscheduled and forced to grow up too fast. Their life is hurried.

Look around your classroom, chances are you have a lot of hurried children. 

This week I want to take time to talk about the hurried child , who they are, what are the causes, what we might see because of it, and how we can support these children.

If you have children you may be familiar with; playdates, sports starting young, music lessons, clubs, etc. We, as a society, are known to schedule and over-schedule our children. We believe that old adage of "ideal hands" and not allowing boredom because that leads to mischief.  

There is a problem with making sure our children are always on the go. No childhood. No time to be bored. No free time. No down time. No time to decompress. No creative time. No self-care time.

Hurried Child Syndrome is borne from over-scheduling our children. It can also be borne from children that have to grow up too fast and parent their younger siblings.

Look around your classroom, chances are you have a lot of hurried children.

How can you spot a hurried child?

-Do you have a student focused on winning...all of the time?
-Do you have a hyper-focused student?
-Do you have a student who is extremely competitive?
-Do you have a student who can tell you all about the family finances?
-Do you have a student who knows all the family drama? Mom's dating life? Dad's dating life?

If you can answer yes to any of those, chances are, you have a hurried child.

In the 1980's David Elkind, PhD first presented finding and coined Hurried Child Syndrome. Dr. Elkind shared that we are forcing our children to grow up too fast. We are hurrying up their childhoods. And we are causing potentially life long problems.

Parents, even well-meaning parents, have become increasingly more likely theses days to put their children into situations that exceed their developmental capabilities. 

We are creating mini adults and not allowing children to just be kids.

Our children who fall into the hurried child category may have struggles with sleep, poor eating habits, and may not get enough physical activity. These children may also have stalled emotional development, feelings of unworthiness, and have an obsession with achievement. These children may also have an inability to have meaningful relaxation and may even express resentment and defiance toward parents.

A Hurried Child may also display
-stress
-anxiety
-lack of free play (they may not play at recess because they do not know how)
-perfectionism
-loss of interest in hobbies
-emotional detachment
-excessive use of technology 

How can we help??

We can't tell parents to let go and stop over-scheduling their children. We can't ask parents to be parents and let their children be kids. But we can help.

As a parent I had a moment recently of letting go of my child's schedule. Leila told me she wanted a break from ballet. She told me she did three shows and that was a lot. While her dad and I love watching her shows and we know she loves dancing (she dances around the house daily) we had to leave it up to her. I wanted to sign her up again. Dad asked her if she was really sure she didn't want to do the class. In the end she picked no ballet. And in all honesty it's a nice break from taking her to classes twice a week. Letting my child tell me she felt hurried helped me out too.

As educators we can provide down time. 
Recess.
Fun Friday.
Friendship parties.
Brain breaks.

We can encourage emotional awareness. 
Inner Explorer (spring challenge coming soon) Don't let students work during this time. Don't let them color or draw. Tell them to sit quietly and be still. They need to learn to be still. To live in the moment. To be in the moment of calm and peace.

It may seems like small ways for us at school. But it can have a big impact on a hurried child.



Thursday, January 30, 2025

A Trick of the Trade


Some have called it the Trojan Horse of Relationship building, others, The Franklin Effect. Either way, lets dig in and find out if we can use a simple favor to understand and maybe even build friendship/relationship.

The Franklin Effect. In case you aren't familiar, is the idea that when we ask someone to do a favor for us they are more likely to like us. Or if you flip it around, when you do not like someone, do a favor for them, you may find you like them better after the favor. 

Why does this work? How does this? How can we utilize this with colleagues and students?

First lets start with some of the psychological research that has been used to understand this concept.

The website thedecisionlab.com shares that many psychologist believe that the Franklin Effect works due to what psychology has identified as cognitive dissonance. Cognitive Dissonance is the idea that our brain needs to make sense of what does not make sense. If I help someone I do not like my brain is confused and needs to make the situation make sense. Thus my brain begins to set up a scenario in which I must actually like the person I am helping. This leads to my brain finding reasons to back up this new understanding.  

When our values and beliefs become misaligned our brains need justification.

The Franklin Effect can turn adversaries into allies and can be a tool for conflict resolution.

Let's break this down a little more to understand it further. 

In his biography Benjamin Franklin noted that when someone has done a favor for you they are more likely to do another favor for you. 

This idea works on the basis that when we do a favor for someone we get to know them better. As we get to know the person better we find things about them we appreciate, are grateful for, and may never have noticed before.

When we do a favor for another person we begin to understand that person better. We are actually taking time to get to know them.

Helping someone else can help us change our perspective of that person and then change how we interact with that person.

I am sure there are some adults in your life that come to mind when you think of utilizing this concept. But can you think of a student or two? 

Ask a student to do a simple favor. Maybe that student who is always up moving you ask to pass out papers. Tell them they you really need them to help you with this favor. Providing an opportunity for your student to engage in a small act of kindness could have a profound effect on their relationship with you.

Once you begin to ask for favors and you notice the student engaging more positively, remember you too need to reciprocate. Ask the student if you can help them with (non-school work) things. Maybe you ask them if you can help with tying a shoe, zipping a coat, picking up a dropped item, etc. Be open to softening your view on the student.

When used correctly the Franklin Effect can build relationships with your students. 

The Franklin Effect is counterintuitive and challenges our common assumptions. When we are open to change and improvement we can see relationships grow and thrive.

This week is a simple blog with a simple idea. A simple idea that may take a lot of courage.

Challenge yourself this week. Ask someone (you do not like or get along with) to do you a favor. Do a favor for someone (you do not like or get along with). Be open to understanding that other person. Be open to allowing that other person to know and understand you.

Try this with a co-worker, family member, parent, or student.

Can you trojan horse them? They see it a gift for them but it is really a sneak attack of relationship building for you.
 

Thursday, January 16, 2025

The Light Up Scrunchie Perspective


What is you outlook for 2025? Do you need to reconsider your perspective? Should you broaden your view or take a look at something from a new angle?

Perspective.

We have a perspective. Sometimes our perspective is narrow and ridged. According to Psychologytoday.com having a narrow or ridged perspective can lead to resentment, anger, and depression. A narrow or ridged perspective can also increase emotional reactivity.

Sometimes we need to put on a light-up scrunchie and expand our perspective.

The website mindful.org has shared the following quote that I feel is a great way for us to start considering perspective and connecting it to our mindfulness.

"One of the most powerful mindfulness practices we can do is intentionally and consciously expand our perspective, expand the size of our awareness."  

Research shows that we can work on expanding our perspective by adjusting our visual focus. We can do this by relaxing our gaze, taking in more, and widening our view. Some believe that this mindfulness practice is similar to taking deep breaths. We can gain the same calming benefits. 

Mindfullittles.org has some great suggestions for us to consider when we begin to work on expanding our perspective.

-We need to start by creating opportunities for a wider perspective. 

-Our brains are wired toward the negative and we have to intentionally cultivate a broader more positive outlook. 

-We need to notice our negative bias as they come up and take note to be able to work on a new perspective.

-Make a point to notice the good. Look for it. Take a challenging situation and actively take it a part to find the good.

-Distanced self-talk. Take time to ask yourself what you might say to a friend. The things we say to ourselves often are things we would never say to a friend. Being kinder to ourselves creates more space for creativity and reduces judgment. 

-Reframe with "Yes...and." This provides spaces for additional information to coexist.

-Focus on Awe... According to the Association of Psychological Science, experiencing Awe can change perception of time, causing us to feel that there is more time and thus more is possible. (I love this idea)

-Power of Yet. Coined by psychologist Carol Dweck, the power of yet cultivates a growth mindset. This is the belief that with practice and effort we can develop and increase our abilities. (I love this one too. Over the summer Leila and I read a book called The Power of Yeti a cute book which helps kids understand this idea of Yet.)

A quick review from the beginning of this blog: Psychologytoday.com reports that having a narrow or ridged perspective can lead to resentment, anger, and depression. It can also cause an increase in emotional reactivity.

Psychology Today also suggests that widening our perspective could very well be the most important skill for our emotional well-being. 

What have you previously (or currently) had a narrow view regarding? Do you struggle to see a student in a different light? Is there a situation that you closed your mind, attitude, and beliefs toward? 

What might happen if you opened you field of vision?

What if you put on a light-up scrunchie and taught class for the day? Don't have a light-up crunchie, that's alright, what is your light-up scrunchie? 


Friday, January 10, 2025

Choose or Change

"What you are not changing you are choosing." -Laurie Buchanan, holistic health practitioner and author.


Before break we talked about not setting New Years Resolutions but rather examining our year of 2024 and deciding what to take in to 2025 and what we might want to change/let go/keep as is/or set a goal around.

This week, as we came back to work on Monday I wondered what I could say as a good follow up. Then on Tuesday I found the quote at the top of the page.

This thought was exactly what I needed to read for myself and to help me focus on how to come back to all of you with a new way to look at the new year.

What you are not changing, you are choosing....
.....if I do not change a habit, I am choosing the habit
.....if I do not change a thought pattern, I am choosing a thought pattern
......if I do not change an outlook, I am choosing that outlook

Without making you go back and reread the last blog here is a quick list of the things we talked about reviewing at the end of a year.

1. Health and Fitness
2. Intellectual Life
3. Emotional Life
4. Character
5. Spiritual Life
6. Love Relationships
7. Parenting Vision
8. Social Life
9. Financial Life
10. Career
11. Quality of Life
12. Life Vision

If you did a 2024 recap and review of these 12 items did you take time to figure out which you are choosing and which you would like to change?

If I do not want to choose something I need to spend time changing it.

According to Harvard Business Review, Changes takes deliberate effort.
We need to, increase self-awareness, make a commitment, overcome interference and then practice.

Successful change requires our trail and error. It requires us making a commitment and telling others to hold us accountable. It requires us quieting thoughts such as "will it really matter if I make this change?"  

The website mindjournals.com shares a list of 27 things related to how we can make positive changes. I thought some of them were very helpful and very mindful. I will share the list and expand on a few to help us work on changing what we do not want to choose in 2025.

1. Practice Gratitude. 
     Take time to be grateful for what is going well and what you have in life. Gratitude changes our brains, training them to be more positive. 
2. Show Kindness
    Did you know that attitudes and moods are contagious? Negative moods and attitudes are more easily "caught" than positive ones. We have to intentionally work on our kindness to help others with theirs. 
3. Buffer Yourself with Positive Emotions
    One study found that if you practice positive emotions for just a little each day you can increase your overall life satisfaction.
 4. Plan Ahead
    A study recently found that those who plan ahead are happier in their relationships, financial security, and are less stressed at work.
5. Schedule Things to Look Forward to
    If something exciting is on your calendar you are more likely to feel a sense of direction, optimism, and hope.
6. Take Care of Your Body
    Regular exercise can help prevent or alleviate symptoms of anxiety and depression.
7. Keep Learning 
    Evidence shows that continued learning drives our wellbeing and creativity.
8. Connect with Your Neighbors (or Colleagues)
    Strong interpersonal relationships make up happier and healthier.
9. Be a Force for Happiness
    Harvard Medicine has discovered happiness is contagious (but remember so are other moods too, choose wisely). 
10. Celebrate Wins
    Harvard Business Review states that celebrating small wins can significantly affect how happy and fulfilled you feel at work. 
11. Stop Comparing Yourself to Others
12. Focus on What to Look Forward to Today
13. Acknowledge Your Feelings
14. Be Open to Collaboration
    If you begin to look on the bright side of life you will be more willing to collaborate and will be able to trust others more. 
15. Be Present
    Studies show regular mindfulness practices can reverse the effects of chronic stress in the brain.
16. Look at the Bigger Picture
17. Accept What You Cannot Change
    How we see yourself  significantly impacts our happiness and resilience.
18. Share Happiness
19. Take that First Step
    Take time to write down one action that you can complete today.
20. Schedule Time for You
21. Show Your Appreciation
22. Rework Boundaries
23. Ignore Expectations
    Ask yourself who you are living for, is the answer you?
24. Reward Yourself
    Small rewards help motivate us to go the extra mile
25. Volunteer
    This has been proven to alleviate feelings of loneliness.
26. Keep a Journal
    Studies show writing and working thorough emotions help you handle those emotions better than those who do not journal.
27. Set Goals
    Keep them small. Keep them simple. Small goals mean that you will "win" quicker and more easily. Then you can go back to number 24 and reward yourself, and go back to number 10 and celebrate a win.

What will you choose in 2025? What will you change? What will you change and how? Will you keep a journal, share happiness, look at the bigger picture, or maybe will you do more mindfulness?

A new year isn't about resolutions you might not keep. 
Did you know that the second Friday in January is known as Quitters Day? 

As I send out this blog, today is officially quitters day (if you read after Friday just know we already had quitters day). Have you set a resolution and quit? 

Why not try a 2024 reflection and evaluate what you will choose and what you will change for 2025.